The most attractive type of smile
A study by Gladstone in 2002 found that, ‘A smile seems to have a favorable influence upon others and makes one more likable and more approachable.’ This may not be news to most people, as we have all experienced how it feels when a stranger smiles at you.
However, very few people consciously make the effort to smile at others. Instead we tend to have a default facial expression. For most people this expression falls somewhere between deep in thought and sleepy.
But, like most human behaviours, smiling can be made into a habit. The more you remind yourself to set your default expression to smile, the better you get at doing it subconsciously. Depending on which expert you follow, a habit takes between 21 and 90 days to cement (so you no longer have to think about it – you just do it). During this period it will feel weird to smile for no reason. But, if you trust that it’ll eventually be integrated into your default persona, and that you eventually won’t even notice yourself smiling, you may find it easier to put up with the weird feeling long enough to be successful.
But wait, here’s the really interesting part… there are many different types of smiles, each conveying different information and emotions. A study published by the American Psychology Association titled Happy Guys Finish Last, found that, ‘pride is the most attractive male expression.’ Thus, if you want to look as attractive as possible, walk around with a proud smile on your face.
Before you walk into a new social environment, try to think of your greatest achievement, then let your face show people how you feel about it.
Now, I do realize that this advice seems basic and obvious, but if you stop to be honest with yourself for a moment, how often do you implement any of it? The key with these bite size articles is for you to take one single idea and use it. As they say – a simple act is more powerful than a complex idea.
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